Life

Where to start this week? So many things have had happened.

Remember last week we went to Dave and Buster’s? Yeah after that, I was thinking of how Kim and Corey were acting. It was so unnatural. It was actually making me madder at Corey for being that way. So….I told him. I wrote him a big letter about how I felt and what I want from him. He actually apologized! I couldn’t believe it and he admitted what he did was wrong. I was shocked! I thought for sure he wouldn’t say anything.

I am going to move on about that. However, respecting him or even try to love him back is going to take some time for me. I didn’t tell him that but I will just have to deal with it.

On Monday Jeff and I went down to see my parents. Since 2020 I told dad that we owe him a meal for serving our country. Usually, I send him an Amazon gift card but last year it flew by Veteran’s Day. So we said a meal on us. That’s what we went down for. Perfect timing too because we brought Adam back with us.

Tex did not like Adam. He barked at him and ran and hid. That’s not Tex, barking yes but running and hiding not him. He usually barks then is like oh okay you can pet me. It took Tex almost the whole day to like Adam. I think because well it’s sad to say but Adam does not like to have cleanliness about himself. We agreed that is why Tex was so unsure of Adam. However like way at night he was okay with him. Then the next day he was okay with him. Still a little unsure though.

It was funny because my mom brought Drew and Bree. Drew hasn’t seen Tex since he was a puppy and walked right up to him and petted him. Tex was a little nervous but allowed it. lol! Okay?! Tex loves Bree because Bree plays with Tex. And loves giving her kisses. It’s so cute!

Then everyone except Jeff went to the beach. It was a nice time and it was the perfect day because it was hot outside. While everyone except dad and I sat on the beach for a little while. I talked to him and he asked me about Corey and the conversation I had with him. Mom is still mad not about the shots even though she thinks they should. She is still mad about not taking the responsibility that he gave Covid to her and him denying it. Dad said that Corey really needs to apologize to mom the most and I so agree with that. What he did was wrong. Not for getting Covid but not owning up to giving it to my parents. Unfortunately, that will never happen which I feel is wrong. I have a feeling like years and years later that will just come back and hit him in the face. Too bad for him.

Yeah, I admit I am still bitter about the whole situation. It’s going to take time to heal my wound and what he did or should say what he didn’t do. I still feel hurt by it.

This Saturday we say goodbye to Adam. I hope he can come home for Christmas. I will always want to see him.

Life

Last Saturday July 10 we went to Jeff’s co-worker’s cabin. She had a little get together to see their almost finished new cabin. It was very nice outside and not too hot. It was a nice get together and everyone there was nice too.

Thursday July 15 Adam is in town for 2 weeks. He invited everyone to Dave and Buster’s which is an arcade, bar and restaurant. When I say everyone that included Corey and family. Ugh but I knew eventually we all get together. It felt like I was in the twilight zone. Kim and Corey acted all loving and hugging us and saying “I love you” to Jeff and I. It was so weird! Everyone was civil too.

I don’t know how to feel. Been thinking about it since then. I just don’t know. I guess I feel something for Corey but love? I still don’t think so. I don’t want to cause any fights so I will be civil. It’s hard to figure out feelings about someone I have known mostly all my life.

It was nice seeing Adam. Jeff mostly won theses for me and Adam won one for me. Duckies.

Adam and I took this pic. It was fun hanging out with and playing some games.

Life

Was supposed to go to a fourth of July family get together but Jeff got sick then gave it to me. I am still sick but getting better. What’s worse is the cough but that is how it goes.

I feel a little hurt. My cousin Alice was in Wisconsin and didn’t even tell me or even drop me a message. I am sick of letting others hurt my feelings. It would have been nice to say hey we are here. Even though I know I would have to say that I am sick and can’t meet up. It would have been nice to know and nice of her to say. Ugh!

Adam is coming back to Wisconsin. I can’t wait to see him. It’s been over a year since I have seen him in person. I am excited for that.

July 4th we celebrated Tex’s birthday. He is three! Jeff and I got him the big Kong! He loved it and he got doggy ice cream.

Life

I lied. Well, unintentional lie. I helped April one last time on Monday. I overdid it and I got way too hot! Ugh, it sucks being a sweaty person even more so in summer. We threw away a lot of things and cleaned one room. Took a load to her new place.

Ugh, Tuesday was bad. My legs hurt really badly and I literally didn’t feel well. Oh, my hamstrings hurt and did for the rest of the week. Two months is hard to do and even more so when it’s hot! I know she is grateful to me and Jeff for helping but it was a lot! I hope this is a lesson to her that she shouldn’t keep literally everything and to keep her place clean.

This weekend is Independence day July 4th but going to celebrate on July 3rd at my Uncle’s place. I think it will be a fun and sweaty time as it’s going to be in the 90’s. Ugh! But still fun to see the family. I think my cousin Alice and family will be there. It will be nice to see them again.

July 4 is Tex’s birthday! He will be 3! We got him a frosty paw and a new toy! I can’t wait to celebrate his birthday.

Life

You know I am not built to go up and down stairs a million times. I am just not. Last week was two days of going up and down the stairs of April’s apartment. Hold up before that driving for 2 hours then going up and down the stairs for two days and driving to her new place how many times. Then driving home for 2 hours. It was exhausting. What really got me is my feet hurt for days. It really sucked because not only did I do that Monday and Tuesday. Wednesday I had to clean my house for Father’s day. Then on Thursday mow the lawn which typically takes me 3 hours. Let’s just say last week I was sore, crabby, and tired. On top of that, it was period week. UGH!!!! I was thinking about it but I have been packing and moving April since May! It’s so insane!

I am glad she will be done on the 30th. I won’t see her again till August. But it was an experience that is for sure. And one I am happy to be done with. It was a hard move and this is coming from a person who has moved so many, many times in her life.

I finished my mom’s bday present:

This pic doesn’t do it justice. It’s better in person but I finished it.

This July is home in improvement projects that need to be done. At least it’s physical activity I can take my time on and feel proud on the finishing them.

Life

June 7 Jeff and I moved more than 50 boxes to April’s new home. It was such hard work! Right now she lives in an upstairs apartment. Jeff had a good idea to build a ramp which we did but still, it was a lot of lifting and driving. I felt sore the next day. I am going back on Monday till Tuesday. Then Jeff and I will go again on the 21st of June to move the rest. I hope that is it. It’s hard to do.

I have to give it to Jeff. He has those days off and he spent them helping April. He doesn’t complain. He’s such a good guy.

What really sucks that it was so hot out! The humidity was 100%. It was a sweaty mess. Ugh! I know the whole time I help her move but really it’s me moving her. It will be this way. One way to look at it. Gaining some muscle. =)

Icy

I have been thinking that maybe others think of me as icy. I don’t know why I have been thinking about it, lately. I guess that isn’t true. A couple of weeks ago I had a conversation with my neighbor. She was telling me she accidentally ran into a tree. You know clumsy but like on her way to her mailbox. Not in a vehicle or anything. Anyways she knocked down some eggs from the tree. An egg fell out of the nest means certain death for those baby birds. She said she felt horrible. Which just a week before I saw some eggs that have fallen out of the tree near where I was mowing. I didn’t mow them over by the way. I am not cruel but I felt bad for the little birdies. I told her that it’s sad that happens but you can’t put the eggs back in the nest. They still will be rejected by the mom. I said it so matter of factly too. She just gave me like yeah in response. Made me think of maybe I should have more sympathy.

In July we are going to one of Jeff’s co-worker friend’s cabin. I was thinking about the social thing I am going to. I am not in any way social at all. As you know I like to put up my walls and stay safely in my castle. I think that people think I am cold or maybe really shy. I also have gotten really, really good at my poker face when it comes to certain topics of conversations. Even though in my mind I have many opinions about whatever people are talking to me about. Years of practicing the poker face have gotten me to this point.

I also think should I care if people think of me as icy? The right answer is no but I am only human and do think about this from time to time. I would like to think that people see that I am a warm person and not a cold person.

Life

I lost track of time! Again. Lol! Humans, right?! Anyways it was so hard last week to pack April’s stuff. We aren’t even close to being done. Think of someone’s house who is a little on the hoarding side. That’s April’s house. It’s not as bad as a hoarder house but well on its way. April and her brother used to live together. A lot of his stuff is there and that was way over 5 years ago. She keeps holding on to it and she keeps telling him to come and get it. He doesn’t live that far from her place. Yet he never has and I doubt he will now come and get his stuff. I would have said come get your stuff or the dumpster it will go. Sometimes April is way too nice. Now though it will go in the dumpster can’t move it with her.

So….SHE GOT THE PLACE SHE WANTED!!!! I am so happy for her. Her new place is not that far from where she lives now. Plus it’s a house she gets the lower half.

Last weekend was rummage sale extravaganza! I found a nice shirt, books, a blanket and this really cool paperweight.

It has real flowers in it. I have to find that strange thing when I do rummage sales. This was it for this year.

Life

This was my week:

Situation bff April tells me she has to move. Why? Because the neighbor across the hall called the landlord. She claims that April’s apartment smells bad and she can smell it in the hall. This neighbor also hates April and this was the 3rd time she called to claim this. It looked bad for April because her mom made it so much worse than it needed to be! She always causes trouble. Her mom called the cops. What the hell are the cops going to do anyway? Because of this, they want April and her parents to move out. Thankfully they are letting her stay until the end of the month of June. Of course, her mom blames her for this even though it was her fault. She didn’t need to get involved. Her parents always make April the scapegoat for everything bad in their lives.

So all week been looking a place to live. It’s been hell! There is nothing to rent right now! So stressful! Plus no one will help her. It will be me and her packing her whole place. All I got to say is April likes to keep things (A LOT OF THINGS!). It will be tough.

I will go see her on Monday and stay for some days. We are going to go look at a place. I hope it works out because it solves all of her problems if she can get it. Fingers crossed.

Another thing, places are not requiring masks anymore. I feel to still wear my mask. I was standing in line at the pharmacy which is a place for sure people should wearing their masks, I feel. However, if people choose not to. Whom am I to tell them so? I would never and have never during this whole thing. Anyways standing in line with my mask on, the only one to have a mask on except staff. This woman is standing sort of next to me. Was chatting with the pharmacist. She was talking about she feels happier she doesn’t have to wear a mask. Then she looks directly at me and says “SOME people I guess didn’t get the memo that they don’t have to wear a mask. Since masks are ridiculous.” Mind you I was doing nothing but standing in line. I wasn’t telling people to wear masks. I wasn’t doing anything. So I look at her and said “Oh I am sorry. What country do we live in? Oh, that’s right, America I can do what I want!” Any other week I would have shrugged it off because I am not a confrontational person. I have been stressed for days trying to help April. So she got what she got. LOL! I wish people who just mind their own business. If a person is minding their own business why provoke? Oh well though it felt good to tell her off.

Brotherly Love

Let me tell you about Mother’s Day. Everything seemed happy. My siblings showed up with food. Sometimes I am unsure if they will. It was a nice sunny day last Sunday. We all sat outside. Jeff and I got burned. Our first sunburn of the year. Jeff got really burned. That really sucks!

Mom asked Kim if she was going to get the vaccine. She replied, “don’t worry about it”. Mom dropped it and she and I went inside so I could see the diamond painting she was working on.

Kim comes storming in yelling at her son that they are leaving right now! Mom and I looked at each other like what is going on? Mom asked what is going on? Corey starts yelling at mom. “It’s nobody’s business if we get vaccinated or not!” Even though yes it is. Maybe some people don’t want to be around those who haven’t got vaccinated yet. Whether to say it’s bad or not is up to each person.

It was a huge fight!

After they left in a huff. Mom and I went back outside and that’s when we got the whole story. Chrissy told Kim it’s Corey’s fault she got Covid. Look at the timeline all of us getting it around Corey. Kim said, “You don’t know that, it was him”. Like really?! Yes, it is! There is no way 5 people got Covid all at once. Also, Corey texted us all that he had Covid. If he didn’t think he gave it to anyone he wouldn’t have done that. Welcome to reality, Corey. I guess they were saying what the news says about Covid. It’s called doing your own research and also the news? Know I have an answer to my question on who really believes the news.

This brought to my attention my relationship with Corey. It’s not good that’s for sure. He has no remorse for what he did. He could have killed my parents. Mom and Chrissy got Covid and it was really bad for them. How could he do this and not feel bad? Even if he would have said I am not getting the shot and I don’t want to talk about it. That’s it. Fine we all would have been fine. But not to apologize to giving it to everyone, in my opinion unforgivable.

Like I have stated before I don’t understand why the family pities Corey. I don’t. He’s an adult and can make decisions on his own. I have struggled for a couple of days. Reflecting on how I feel about Corey. I decided I loved and respected the Corey when we were younger. We used to hang out. We used to be able to talk to each other. After years of me reaching out and trying to get together with him. Him not trying not even a tiny bit to at least be brotherly to me. Ignoring calls, texts, and even trying to hang out. I am done.

I have come to the conclusion I don’t love Corey. I can’t love someone I don’t have any kind of respect for. It’s different for me not to like something one of my family does. Maybe get mad here and there. This is a different feeling altogether. It’s not wrong to not love or even like your siblings. I think that is what I struggled with the most is he is my brother. Really that doesn’t mean anything.

Since he has chosen years ago he doesn’t care about our relationship then why should I try to mend something that isn’t even there anymore? It’s sad that it took Covid to bring that to light but the only thing that came from that fight is that hard feeling, I had but don’t have anymore. Since I don’t love my brother anymore. I feel actually free now. I don’t have to like him or his wife. Which really I haven’t ever really liked her anyway. I still will be civil but I can’t say I love you back. I am not going to say something just to say it because everyone else does.