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I was thinking lately that I am a great deflector from myself. This why I think that. I tend to deflect things about myself to others. I try to talk about you not me. I think that maybe you are more interesting than me. Or I just have real problem talking about myself.

I have met some of the most boring people in the world and still can have them talk about themselves. I ask questions and just let them take off. It’s really easy if you have kids or pets. Here why it’s easy:

So how many kids to do you have? How old are they? Really, what do they like to do?

How many pets do you have? Awe I bet she/he is spoiled. Does she/he like to play? How old are they?

See how easy to keep the conversation going. People who have none of those are also very easy. Here are some examples:

What do you like to do? What are your hobbies? Are you married? What does your husband/wife/girl/boyfriend do? What do you do for a living? You are single? That’s cool. What are some of your hobbies?

Easy, easy and easy! I have gotten pretty good at deflecting from myself. But there is a down side. Let’s say we are talking about something interesting and I want to interject. More often than not the person will just continue to talk about themselves. At those moments I just think “oh well, whatever.” It’s really my fault that I got them talking.

However I have met only a few people who are great deflectors as well. When two deflectors get together, not a lot of talking happens. It’s like a match to see who will win. When this happens it feels more like an interview then just a general conversation. Just to see who can get out of the other person more. Funny when that happens. But that it’s rare.

This happens every time, I talk with someone. It can be family, friends or strangers. I guess that I am a really good listener. That is a good trait to have.

Of course if you want to know more about me. You can just ask. I will be honest. But let’s talk about you….