7 years today I have been married. Let me tell you it has been a roller-coaster but not a negative one, a fun one at times, frustrating but all in all the best decision of my life.

When I met Jeff I was 22 and he was 29. I was young considering I graduated high school when I was 19. Now that seems late but more than half of my class graduated at 19. I met Jeff on a dating site and I found him. Yes, I like pointing that out. The first time I saw his pic he was posing with a young girl who I thought was his daughter. Wrong! It was his roommate’s daughter. It’s kinda funny because Jeff doesn’t remember that pic. The other pic he had on there, he was wearing a red shirt, black pants and glasses. Totally cute! We talked on the site, then on the phone and finally had a date. Our first date was AWESOME! No guy ever treated me like that. Which I mean is held the door for me, super polite, paid for dinner. What? Paid for dinner? Yes, no I haven’t been on many dates but the ones I have been I always had to pay. It was totally cool and he walked me to my car.

During our “dating days” we hit some bumps but always worked them out. Just like now! Our wedding was a very traditional Catholic wedding. It’s funny because when we talk about our wedding, we both agree that we would have been fine with a small untraditional wedding. (Oh well!)

We have been married for 7 but have been together for 9 years. I have to say I love our relationship now and Jeff agrees. But I am glad we hit our “bumps” early on.

So here is my secret of a happy marriage: honesty. Yes, honesty and laughter. We tell each other EVERYTHING. No secrets! And we make each other laugh every day. You know that saying “never go to bed angry”. Well poppycock! I learned that sometimes not all the time to go to bed angry. Sometimes I or he just needs time to think about it. Also I can’t always be right. Yes I am wrong…sometimes.

Here is a wedding photo of us. Also Jeff would have been smiling but he got Bell’s Palsy before our wedding. If you don’t know what that is, it is a disorder of the nerves that controls movement of the muscles in the face. This can happen to anyone at any time and the doctors do not know what causes it. Kinda scary! Anyways we are, one of the best days ever!